James and Lucretia Garfield’s relationship began as a connection forged in their youth at school, rekindled years later at Hiram College where James took over teaching their Greek class. Their courtship involved over 1,200 letters exchanged, and despite mutual doubts and financial concerns, they married in 1858.
The early years of their marriage were marked by distance as James pursued his political and military career, with the couple spending significant time apart. Tragedy struck their family repeatedly.
They had seven children, but lost their first daughter, Trot, to diphtheria, and later their young son Edward to whooping cough. Lucretia also suffered miscarriages.
During these difficult periods, James was consumed by his work, and his affair with a reporter nearly ended their marriage. However, Lucretia's forgiveness and strength during this crisis led to a profound deepening of their love, with James later writing about their unbreakable bond.
Their lives progressed as James entered Congress and they divided time between Washington and their Ohio home, eventually building a family estate called Lawnfield. Lucretia, who had previously shunned public life, became a gracious hostess during James's presidential campaign, which utilized the innovative "front porch campaign" method.
As First Lady, she demonstrated a commitment to her role, undertaking renovations of the White House and advocating for women's rights. During President Garfield's brief presidency, Lucretia fell gravely ill and was away recovering when he was shot by an assassin.
She returned and remained devotedly by his bedside for eleven weeks until his death, which was ultimately caused by infection. Following his death, the nation rallied around Lucretia, with significant donations made to support her and their children.
She dedicated the remainder of her life to preserving her husband's legacy and lived privately until her death in 1918. Their children continued to pursue careers in education and public service.
